the rtsp://10.0.69.55:554/cam/realmonitor?channel=1&subtype=1 works fine in VLC, no problems, when I put the username and password in the URL it works also.

if I put in the TAGS, either @tunnel or @proxy that does not help it either.
depending on the tag I get “Porch is not responding” or “humm, I cant connect to the camera”

am I supposed to do something with my firewall? I have a pfSence . is there something I am missing here. it looks pretty simple.